All memos tagged #play-party-prep

Electro — e-stim, electrical play, violet wands — is the one modality at a party where a few of the contraindications are absolute, invisible, and not negotiable by how experienced anyone is. That's...

People keep asking me what I actually do before a Play Party, so here it is in one place. This is what works for my body and my nervous system. It's not a rulebook and it's definitely not a standard...

Sex party, play party, lifestyle event — the word shifts by city and by scene, and the thing underneath is the same. A Play Party is a private, hosted gathering where sex and kink happen inside an...

A field guide for playing clear - written from inside a sobriety that doesn't fit a straight line, for the people who need it. A companion to ANCHORS, living inside the H line of the covenant - but...

Every couple hours, or any time the energy shifts, I tap the compass. Three questions, maybe thirty seconds. Body Am I tense anywhere? Am I hydrated, hungry, tired? Emotion Do I feel open, neutral,...

There's a gap before ANCHORS ever starts. ANCHORS assumes two people who've already decided to play and are now running the framework together — but there's an earlier, more awkward moment nobody's...

Internal hydration is the biggest factor by a wide margin. Everything else on this page is a supporting act. The foundation Water plus electrolytes. That's it, that's the whole base layer, and no...

Optional, and I don't always do it, but when it fits the vibe it works. I pick a scent just for the night, or a small object that lives in my purse. One thing, used only for this. Then every time I...

If anal play is on the table, prep starts the day before — not an hour before. The night before Lighter, lower-residue food in the evening. Rice, fish or tofu, well-cooked veggies. No large, fibrous,...

These matter more than you'd think. I say them in advance — to myself, and to whoever I'm going with — so I'm not negotiating them in the moment. The moment is the worst possible time to be building...

Before I crash or scroll or fully decompress. It takes a minute, and it's the difference between a night that lands and one that just sort of trails off. Sit down. Hand on my heart or my belly, same...

My anchor is one sentence I pick before a party and carry through the whole night. Not a performance goal. A state of being. I choose it 48 to 24 hours out, while I’m still calm and nothing is...

For when things get overwhelming, buzzy, or disconnected. One to three minutes, anywhere. Step away physically if I can. Inhale slowly through my nose. Exhale longer than I inhale — the long exhale...

People keep asking me what I actually do, so here it is in one place — the whole stack, from daily microbiome upkeep to the 7-day runway into an event. This is what works for me, not medical advice....