Objective
People keep asking me what I actually do, so here it is in one place — the whole stack, from daily microbiome upkeep to the 7-day runway into an event. This is what works for me, not medical advice. If something's persistent (recurring BV, yeast, real dryness), go see a provider.
Hydration + Diet Foundations
This is the unglamorous part that does the most work.
Daily
- 2–3L water, especially in the days leading up to an event
- Omega-rich foods: chia, flax, walnuts, avocado — these support mucosal hydration, vaginal tissue included
Foods that help
- Pineapple, melon, citrus, berries
- Fresh herbs (parsley, mint), cucumber, celery
3–4 days out, dial back
- Excess sugar (feeds yeast)
- Alcohol (drying, alters scent)
- Heavy garlic and onion
Microbiome Support
This is my real signature scent — not a product.
- Probiotic with Lactobacillus rhamnosus GR-1 + Lactobacillus reuteri RC-14, the two most studied strains for vaginal and urinary flora
- Unsweetened coconut yogurt
- Never douche or use scented washes
If BV or yeast prone, this step matters more than any freshening product. If you want a specific bottle rather than sourcing the strains yourself, Jarrow Fem-Dophilus is formulated with exactly that pair and is shelf-stable.
External Care
- Wash the vulva with warm water or a very mild unscented cleanser only
- Trim, don't shave close right before — irritation risk
- Breathable cotton underwear leading up to the event
- Right before: quick rinse or warm washcloth, and a drop of plain fractionated coconut oil externally for glide (patch test first)
In-the-Moment Lubrication
- Maude's Shine Aloe — my go-to
- Lactomedi pleasure gel — my other favorite, especially for keeping things balanced
If I want a backup that's easy to find in stores, Good Clean Love Almost Naked is aloe-based, pH 4.1–4.5 (matches vaginal pH), and iso-osmolar, meaning it won't pull moisture out of tissue the way high-osmolality lubes can. That pH-plus-osmolarity combo is the actual rule of thumb.
Daily Supplement Stack
Optional extras: chlorophyll (internal deodorizer effect), cranberry extract (urinary and vaginal balance)
Simple twice-a-day version: probiotic + omega-3 in the morning, evening primrose + vitamin E at night.
One flag on evening primrose oil: it can interact with blood thinners and isn't recommended right before surgery. Not everyone reading this will know that.
What NOT to bother with: yoni detox pills, boric acid unless you're actively treating BV or yeast, sugary feminine gummies.
7-Day Prep
Days 1–3 — Foundation
- Morning: probiotic, omega-3, water before coffee
- Midday: hydrating foods plus a fat source
- Evening: evening primrose, vitamin E, peppermint or ginger tea
- Avoid: alcohol, heavy sugar, salty processed food
Days 4–5 — Expected period window
- If it hasn't started: keep the routine, add slightly higher calories (signals safety to my body) and lower-intensity movement
- If it does start: no panic. Stay on the supplements, pause primrose if cramps worsen, hydrate more, lean on magnesium-rich foods and warm fluids
Days 5–6 — Glow + moisture build
- Same stack, add chlorophyll
- Clear or light urine is my hydration marker
- Food focus: pineapple, citrus, berries, cucumber and mint, light proteins
- Cut alcohol completely, ease off garlic, onion, and excess coffee
Day 6 night — Pre-event ritual
- Warm shower, external-only cleanse, light oil on thighs and hips
- Loose cotton underwear or none
- Light but satisfying meal — protein, carb, a little fat
- Sleep. Underrated. My nervous system resets overnight
Day 7 — Event day
- Morning: probiotic and omega-3, hydrate early instead of playing catch-up
- Midday: light hydrating food plus something salty for balance
- 2–3 hours before: shower or rinse, no harsh soap, optional external oil
- Right before: empty bladder, breathe, drop in
If my period shows up anyway: a soft disc works during penetration, and a dark breathable outfit plus confidence covers the rest.
Worth saying plainly: this timing approach is diet and lifestyle based, not a guaranteed method. It's what's worked for me.
Pussy Water
- 32 oz water, or 50/50 coconut water and still water
- 1 serving electrolytes
- 2g d-mannose powder + cranberry extract
For the electrolyte piece: LMNT is zero-sugar and sodium-forward, good if you sweat a lot at events. Ultima Replenisher is gentler and lower-sodium if LMNT's saltiness isn't for you.
Subjective
The part people skip: supplements help, but my baseline state matters more. Hydration beats everything. Arousal beats any pill for lubrication. Microbiome balance beats every fragrance hack.
My body produces more natural lubrication when I feel safe, when I feel wanted, and when I'm not rushing myself. So the real final step isn't a supplement, it's giving myself a runway. A slow lead-in. Music, scent, an outfit ritual. Time to warm up instead of jumping straight into action.
Before I go: warm shower, light oil on thighs and hips, and I set an intention — my body is soft, responsive, and fully mine. Not woo-woo fluff. My nervous system listens.
And having a little assist is power, not failure. Nobody is failing at anything by reaching for lube.
The arc, if I want it in one line: Days 1–3 build the ecosystem, Days 3–4 influence timing, Days 5–6 amplify moisture and scent, Day 7 I'm not prepping anymore — I'm inhabiting.
I'm not trying to smell like a product. You're aiming for clean, warm, skin-but-better.