RADAR is a structured monthly relationship check-in framework created by the 📝Multiamory team to bring clarity, intentionality, and proactive communication into partnerships of all kinds. It stands for Routines, Agreements, Desires, Assessments, and Requests. Originally developed in the context of ethically non-monogamous and complex relationships, RADAR has since been embraced as a universal tool for fostering 📝Secure Attachment, mutual accountability, and emotional transparency. The Multiamory site offers an infographic cheat sheet and detailed guides to help couples or polycules facilitate productive, recurring conversations around evolving needs. Emphasizing ethics over tradition, the framework reflects Multiamory's broader mission: reimagining relationships for a more liberated and agency-driven future. RADAR is framed not as conflict resolution, but as a ritual of connection and recalibration — a means of deepening intimacy, building trust, and preventing resentment from accumulating.
I use this in my relationship with myself as a "Self-RADAR", a monthly mirror to check in across dimensions that matter: quality time, sex and romance, money, work and projects, household and life ops, and activations. This time and structure saves me from collapse or over-functioning. It catches unmet needs before they morph into burnout or fantasy. RADAR gives me a way to name things gently, without needing to resolve them instantly.
The Self-RADAR has since evolved into a weekly practice inside 📝MythOS, restructured around the 📝Types of Capital framework with an inner-relational close grounded in 📝Relational Sovereignty. The original RADAR section names gave way to a Capital-flavored arc — Spiritual, Natural, Financial, Social, Emotional — so the weekly mirror could surface labor, money, gatherings, and felt-relational substance alongside presence and routine. The structural change made room for agent-driven pre-population: an AI assistant pulls from daily memos, calendar, call notes, and code commits to populate the factual surfaces of the SR each week, leaving only the felt and reflective sections for me to write. What had been a 1-2 hour Saturday practice now takes about a fifth of that. See 📝Self-RADAR with MythOS for the full pillar memo and the on-ramp to the practice.
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- 📝Self-RADAR with MythOS — the weekly self-practice adaptation, run inside MythOS