All memos tagged #polyamorous-parenting

There isn't a lot out here yet. Jamilah (@goodmoms\badchoices, of Good Moms Bad Choices) and Jessica (@remodeledlove, of Remodeled Love) are doing some of the only visible work on being a mom who's...

Outness is a spectrum, not a verdict. It is a risk calculation crossed with a values calculation, and both are allowed to land somewhere other than where mine did. This is the F of The FAMILY...

Kids are pattern-matchers. They will notice who's around, who stays over, and who gets a key long before they have the vocabulary for it — and if you haven't named it for yourself, you'll improvise...

Answer the question they actually asked, not the one you're braced for. That is the whole of the A in The FAMILY Framework — Age It Right. What follows is not a script. It's a shape, and you fill it...

Each institution gets exactly as much information as it needs and no more — and that line isn't about honesty, it's about scope. This is the I of The FAMILY Framework: Institutions & Information....

The single most common mistake isn't dishonesty, it's sequencing — introducing someone before the relationship has proven it can hold weight. This is the L of The FAMILY Framework: Logistics, Not...

This terrain is thin, and the people already mapping it are worth finding. That is the Y of The FAMILY Framework: Your Village. The list below is short enough to give in full, which is itself the...

Polyamorous parenting is the practice of raising children while openly maintaining more than one romantic relationship — and the specific set of decisions that combination forces, none of which are...

FAMILY is a six-domain framework for raising kids as a polyamorous parent — decisions to make on purpose, in advance, rather than improvise in a moment you didn't choose. The six are walked in...

The questions below are the ones that actually get asked — by other parents, by co-parents, and by people at 2am wondering whether they're doing damage. Answers are mine, from practice rather than...