A blank 📝ANCHORS covenant — fork it and fill it in with a partner to negotiate a connection across seven sovereign-relating domains.
How to 📝Fork this Memo Template: Duplicate this memo into your own library and rename it for the two of you. Each person fills their own side — Partner A and Partner B — for every domain, starting each line with "I" (Systems is the exception: it's spoken as "we"). Revisit and revise it as the connection evolves.
This covenant
- Partner A:
- Partner B:
A — Anchor
What is mine to hold — your sovereignty and self-responsibility: what stays yours, and how you hold your own regulation. e.g. "I hold my own rest and time; I commit from desire, not guilt."
Partner A
Partner B
N — Narrative
What this is, and is not — the intention, direction, and name of the connection. e.g. "I see this as friendship and play, not a merger."
Partner A
Partner B
C — Co-creation
What we make together — the play you want: erotic, intellectual, creative. e.g. "I want dates, scenes, and creative collaboration where everyone is met with care."
Partner A
Partner B
H — Health
Bodies, safety, and limits — safewords, somatic limits, and full sexual-health disclosure. e.g. "I use green / yellow / red; last tested [month]; my hard limits are […]."
Partner A
Partner B
O — Others
Who else is in our lives — existing partners, metamours, transparency, and any shared-cost or material agreements. e.g. "My partners are […]; I ask for prompt notice of new fluid bonding; we split shared costs by […]."
Partner A
Partner B
R — Repair
How we come back — aftercare, and how you tend rupture and transition. e.g. "I need [aftercare]; when we rupture I ask that we name it and repair rather than go silent."
Partner A
Partner B
S — Systems
What keeps us aligned over time — the standing practices you both agree to run: recurring check-ins like 📝RADAR, 📝Safewords, and other systems that keep the other six domains alive as the connection evolves. Spoken as "we," not "I." e.g. "We agree to respect our safewords and practice a weekly check-in."
Where this covenant is silent, each person's own baseline governs. You steady in yourself, then you relate.