The Funeral Design****Exercise was a brief 1h30-minute experience facilitated by ritual designer Tiu de Haan at the 📝College of Extraordinary Experiences.
The intention is to help your loved ones know what is important to you (and what is not) by leaving them a guide of your wishes and desires.
Prompts
The Big Questions
- Why do you need or want a ritual?
- What is the most important thing?
- How will you know if it's a success?
- What help will you need to make this project happen?
Timeline
- How will it Begin?
- How will it End?
Sensory:
- What will people See?
- What is the dress code?
- Will they see the coffin?
- Will it be open? Closed?
- What objects will there be?
- Photographs? Flowers? Open Sky? Chapel? Video? Photographs? Altar?
- What will people Hear?
- Music? Poetry? Tribute? Eulogy? Story of your life enacted by others? Singing? Live Music? Complete silence?
- What Languages will it be in?
- What will they Smell?
- Fire? Incense? Flowers? Signature Scent? Food?
- What will they Taste?
- Snacks? Food? Wine? Apple cider?
- What will they Touch?
- Group hugs? Fabrics? Objects?
- What is the Energy?
- Solemn? Emotional? Joyous?
Body:
- Will you be cremated? Buried? Composted? Donated to Science?
- What type of Coffin would you want?
- Fabric? Cardboard? Wood?
- What are you taking with you inside the coffin?
- What do you want to do with your ashes?
- Scattered? Diluted? Transformed into a diamond? Coral reef? Tree? Placed in a firework? Blown into glass? Tattooed?
Energetics:
- Who are they as they enter the ceremony?
- How are they different as they exit the experience.
Logistics:
- Will it be public? Private? Half/half? What about the Memorial?
- Will there be Documentation? Photos? Video?
- Will it be repeated? Every year?
- Where will it be?
- What do you want
Roles and Responsibilities:
- Who will lead the ceremony?
- Note: It's better to hire a professional celebrant.
- Who will write the eulogy?
- Who will carry the coffin?
- What roles will the children have?
- Who is responsible for the invite list?
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