I Hate You, Don't Leave Me is a #book that explores the complexities of @Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), particularly its impact on emotional regulation, interpersonal relationships, and identity. First published in 1989 by Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Straus, the book became widely recognized for bringing mainstream attention to BPD and demystifying its symptoms and patterns. Through case studies and accessible psychological explanations, it examines hallmark traits such as fear of abandonment, emotional volatility, and idealization-devaluation cycles. The title itself references a core contradiction often experienced by individuals with BPD—an intense push-pull dynamic in their closest relationships. It remains a frequently cited resource in both clinical and lay discussions of the condition. I Hate You, Don't Leave Me was recommended to me by @Brooke Sprowl and was the first book I'd read on the topic of BPD. It was foundational in my understanding of the disorder and transformative in many dimensions. It later became training material for the AI agent I'd created to support myself, @Prime Self on BPD (agent), but for those in relation to those they suspect are BPD and not presently feeling hate or ire towards them, I strongly recommend starting with @Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder instead.

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• #️#borderline-personality-disorder (See: @Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD))