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Most people don't realize this, but empaths and narcissists are two sides of the same wound. Both often grew up in environments where love was conditional. The empath learned, if I tune into everyone else's needs, then I'll feel safe. And the narcissist learned, if I hide my vulnerability and control and manipulate others, then I'll be safe. So underneath the surface, they're wired by the same survival fear. They just adapted in opposite directions. That's why they're so magnetized to each other. The empath's over giving tendencies and the narcissist's taking tendencies are both created from the same childhood blueprint. This is why empaths always deeply connect to narcissists based on their traumatic experiences. But then the empath's survival tendencies makes them so forgiving that they don't hold them accountable for their toxic behavior. Especially given that as an empath, you know very well how it feels to have suffered. But the real breakthrough comes when empaths realize they don't attract narcissist because they're weak or too nice, but they attract them because their nervous system is still wired for familiar danger instead of unfamiliar safety. When you realize this, you stop blaming yourself for caring too much. You understand that your empathy was never the problem. It was your lack of safety. And as you heal, your empathy and sensitivity become your superpower again, no longer a magnet for pain, but a guide towards the kind of love that actually lasts.

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• #narcissistic-personality-disorder