The research of Drs. Jack Bauer and Heidi Wayment. when we have a quiet (but not silent) ego, we are able to do a better job of listening to others as well as ourselves so we can “approach life more humanely and compassionately.”
They found that a balanced quiet ego can be achieved by:
Inclusive identity: Feeling a connection to all living things ultimately “increases the likelihood of cooperation and decreases the likelihood of self-protective stances toward the other.”
Perspective-taking: Being able to reflect on others’ points of view which “provides a critical- thinking counterbalance to the social bonds and acceptance that are facilitated by inclusive identity.”
Detached awareness: A ‘a non defensive sort of attention’ similar to the mindfulness moniker of ‘observation without judgement’ and this goes for ourselves and others.
Growth: Identifying opportunities for personal growth and appreciating that new experiences can challenge how we think about ourselves and the world.
I discovered the concept of 'Quiet Ego' in the 📝Holstee Membership: Compassion Guide.