10 Principles of Relationship Assurance
This policy requires the 📝Bonded Party to uphold the following standards.
A breach of any principle constitutes a valid claim.
1. Active Repair (The "Genesis" Rule)
We acknowledge that harm, whether intentional or accidental, is inevitable in human connection. The measure of character is not perfection, but the response to error. When the Bonded Party hurts another, they must acknowledge the impact without defensiveness, offer a genuine apology, and take tangible steps to repair the bond or the situation. "I didn't mean to" is not a defense; impact outweighs intent.
2. Radical Transparency
The Bonded Party agrees to disclose their relationship status, availability, and intentions upfront. There is no "fine print" in dating. Withholding information about other partners, sexual health status, or emotional capacity to manipulate a connection is a breach of policy. If the landscape changes, the disclosure must be updated immediately.
3. Compassionate Closure (The Anti-Ghosting Clause)
Disappearing acts are strictly prohibited. If the Bonded Party wishes to terminate a connection, they owe the other party a clear, verbal or written communication stating that the relationship is ending. The depth of the closure must match the depth of the relationship. Silence is not an acceptable exit strategy.
4. Enthusiastic Consent
Consent is not a checkbox; it is a continuous conversation. The Bonded Party must obtain affirmative, enthusiastic, and revocable consent for all physical and emotional escalations. Coercion, guilt-tripping, or wearing someone down until they say "yes" constitutes a major policy violation.
5. Emotional Containment
The Bonded Party is responsible for their own emotional regulation. While partners can offer support, the Insured shall not use their partner as a rehabilitation center, a punching bag, or an exclusive therapist. Dumping trauma without permission or lashing out due to unchecked triggers is a liability.
6. Reliability of Word
If the Bonded Party says they will be there, they will be there. Chronic flaking, lateness, or failing to follow through on promises creates emotional instability in the system. The Bonded Party respects the time and energy of others as equal in value to their own.
7. Data Dignity
Private intimacies remain private. The sharing of texts, photos, or vulnerable secrets with third parties without express permission is a breach of privacy. Screening shots of private arguments to show friends for validation is considered a leak of confidential data.
8. Clean Fighting
Conflict is allowed; cruelty is not. In the event of a disagreement, the Bonded Party agrees to refrain from gaslighting, name-calling, stonewalling, or using a partner’s vulnerabilities against them. The goal of conflict must be understanding, not winning.
9. Stewardship of Safety
The Bonded Party agrees to act as a steward of their partner’s physical and sexual health. This includes proactive testing, honest reporting of risk factors, and ensuring that the physical environment is safe. Negligence regarding biological safety is an immediate policy void.
10. Integrity in Hierarchy (The Power Dynamic Rule)
Whether in a monogamous dynamic, a polyamorous hierarchy, or a casual encounter, the Bonded Party will not abuse power imbalances (age, wealth, experience, or social capital). Treating a "secondary" partner or a casual date as a disposable commodity rather than a human being is a violation of the code.